Difficult Person Test
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How do you respond when someone questions your approach, gives you feedback or sees a situation differently? This free difficult person test helps you reflect on specific recent habits without deciding whether you are a “good” or “bad” person.
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Preview the assessment questions▼
1. I explained why I was right before checking what the feedback meant.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
2. When someone raised a concern about my behavior, I answered with a complaint about them.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
3. I rejected feedback because I disliked how it was delivered, before considering its content.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
4. I considered whether feedback contained a useful point before deciding whether to accept it.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
5. In a low-stakes shared decision, I ruled out another workable option before comparing it with mine.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
6. I kept insisting on my original approach after we had agreed that it did not meet the task requirements.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
7. I treated my preference as a requirement when the shared task could have been done either way.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
8. I was willing to try another workable method for a low-stakes shared task.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
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- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
9. I answered what I assumed someone meant without checking when their message was unclear.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
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- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
10. After someone corrected my understanding of their point, I continued replying to my original interpretation.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
11. I dismissed a concern as unimportant before asking why it mattered to the person.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
12. I checked whether my summary of another person’s point was accurate before disagreeing with it.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
13. During a disagreement, I criticized the other person’s character instead of the issue we were discussing.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
14. I used a sarcastic remark to make another person’s contribution look foolish.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
15. I brought unrelated past mistakes into a current disagreement.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
16. During a disagreement, I kept my comments focused on the issue being discussed.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
17. After noticing a mistake I had made, I named the specific action I was responsible for.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
18. When someone described the effect of my behavior, I acknowledged that effect without requiring them to agree with my intentions.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
19. After a disagreement I wanted to repair, I proposed a specific change I could make.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
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- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
20. I checked whether I had carried out a change I had agreed to make after a disagreement.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
21. When invited to share my view on a low-stakes shared decision, I said that I disagreed if I did.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
22. When someone declined an ordinary request from me, I accepted their answer without trying to change it.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
23. After agreeing to a plan without voicing my different preference, I continued feeling frustrated about it.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
24. When a discussion became tense, I asked for time to think before responding.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
25. With friends, I considered an alternative way to handle a low-stakes shared plan.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
26. Under time pressure, I considered an alternative way to handle a low-stakes shared plan.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
27. When someone’s reaction puzzled me, I asked them how they understood the situation.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
28. I followed through on a small adjustment I had agreed to make for a shared activity.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
29. After a minor interpersonal mistake, I judged my whole character negatively.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
30. After an interpersonal mistake, I reviewed the specific behavior I could change.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
31. When feedback was given privately, I considered its content before defending my position.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
32. When feedback was given in front of others, I considered its content before defending my position.
- Never or almost never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
- No relevant opportunity
- Not sure / cannot recall
- Prefer not to answer
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